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Deborah Gilboa, MD Judging others.
Do you stop and think what the story is behind what you see? Judgment is a normal part of life. But we should all be slower with it.
My almost 4-year-old throws herself flat on the ground in the middle of the store, screaming about something or another. As I look up, I say a quick prayer that the people around me “get it.” I wish I could tell everyone this isn’t normal for her. At all.
As I talk quietly to Bella (Won’t lie — I’m using my angry whisper and my eyes are so beady I can barely see out of them), it hits me that should no one around understand what is really happening, it wouldn’t bother me anymore. I would have judged a parent for this about 18 months ago, and the only reason I don’t (much), is because I know our story. I don’t expect anyone else to even remotely guess what she’s dealing with.
I know my child is falling apart because her world has fallen apart. Twice. That she is struggling every day with understanding why another brother went to heaven instead of coming home. She’s watched her family grieve and try to pull together. She had her mama gone nearly an entire month to be hundreds of miles away at a hospital. She flew out to meet her brother only to also say goodbye to him the next day. She’s watching her home being packed up as we start over in a new one…
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